I get often told that I generalize and/or stereotype black women. They are incorrect. I believe this is yet another projection from people because they hear me say things which they assume I find applicable to all black women or which they find stereotypical.
The ways in which I speak in my videos
I speak in two ways in videos:
- about my experience (which is 99% of the time);
- or I’m hypothesizing.
About my experience
I pretty much always emphasize that I speak about my experience (for example I say “Well, in my experience…”), or the context will strongly suggest it (for example I say “I’ve only seen…” or “I’ve never seen…”).
Experience is experience, you cannot speak of generalizing and/or stereotyping when talking about your experience, because you’re conveying what you have experienced in your life. It seems so easy to understand but sadly many do not.
If I hypothesize I always state it explicitly. It may happen that in such cases I generalize and/or use stereotypes, but honestly in all of the cases where people have said that I generalized and/or stereotyped I was speaking about my experience.
The reasons why people say I generalize and/or stereotype black women
People who say that I generalize and/or stereotype black women I believe are of that opinion because of one of the following reasons:
- They judge based on the video title without actually watching the actual video.
- They watch the video but skip parts of it, missing the bit(s) where I say (or allude to) that I am speaking about my experience.
- They watch the entire video but do not understand that when speaking about one’s experience one cannot generalize or stereotype.
See also this similar question ‘Why does Coen Naninck think all black women and/or all white men are the same?‘.